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Sandra
I met a man at dance classes this tuesday(salsa, bachata, tango…) My problem is that he only text me at night hours. Never call’s me. I went out with him this Wednesday. I really enjoyed with him. We spend 4 hrs together and had a really great conversation, And then we kissed. :) But he doesn’t called me after that, I sent him a text and he immediately answered, so we exchanged a few SMS. For this weekend he’s not in the city. He promisses me that we would change sms. But he forget on me till 22 pm. He asks me what i’m doing. I got mad, so I didn’t answer. I let him think that I have gone to sleep. Does he take’s me seriously or I’m just his future “success story” or booty call?
Sorry for the possible errors, because English is not my native language.Talllady
Firstly, never be the one to text after a date. Your job is to thank him and tell him you had fun on the date.
Secondly, do not respond to texts after 10:30. Just respond next morning. He will get the hint. Oh, I was out. Oh I went to bed….
EL
That late? Booty call…most likely. There are some exceptions, but usually wanting to hang out that late is a sign that they want to get in your pants.
Sandra
I told him(sent him a sms) that the message/facebook/e-mail is not relevant for the relationship, just phone calls, and that I don’t like to have texting dominant relationship. He replied to me that he has to much have obligations till Monday, and that regrets but he will make it up soon. I didn’t buy that. Then I sad to him that it’s ok to not like me that much, but it’s not ok lie to me. He after replied that he is genuine and how he really has to much obligations. Yeah, right. It never didn’t stop man to call me, if he really like’s me. So, I sad to him that we are just friend from this momement. Am I wrong? My guts tell’s me that I’m right.
P.S. Thank you for your answers.
Sherry
How about if you don’t respond to the texts and wait and see what he does…
Sandra
I already respond to him, exactly as I write to you.
Talllady
Men definitely get busy. Especially ones who are not your boyfriend. Your actions are really needy and bossy.
Chasing after the date, telling him you don,t take texts, accusing him of not liking you and assuming he is lying. I have had boyfriends who loved me who would not contact me for a few days. I wanted the, to contact me when they felt devotion to me. Please check your expectations, and your tone. If you want something you get way more with sugar than vinegar.
Make requests, not demands. Text example… Hey xyz, give me a shout when you have time. I love hearing your voice and hate texting!
Think that might work better?
Talllady
And not responding is terrible advise. Any healthy man would go away. Men like it when you give preferences and reward them.
Sandra
I’m not needy nor bossy, just realistic and cutting losses. He can text me, but he can’t call. Figure it out. No one is to busy for the one the he love/like. He tell me that is too busy..till Monday ..it’s a crap.. At this very moment he is in his birth town, with his familly..so he can make some roome for me, and call me, just for a minut. But he already has an excuses.
LAgirl
Wait… You only had one date and you are setting demands on him like a GF?
Sandra
Sure. If he want to gout out and hang with me, he must call me. And he make a call before 5 minutes. I’m happy. :)
Zipacna
eek…I actually feel kinda sorry for the guy. I’d hate to be on the receiving end of your demands after one date. If you’re acting like this now I’d be thinking jesssussssssss how will she be in one years time.
Ali
My boyfriend didn’t text me until 3 days after our first date. 2 days after that he called to ask me out for the weekend. I didn’t hear from him until the day of our 2nd date. After that he called me.
You are being too demanding. And going to scare this guy and future men away if you keep this up. Right now you are both getting to know eachother. He needs to impress you. And you need to impress him.
My boyfriend told me that it intrigued him that I didn’t demand he talk to me everyday. It made him wonder if I was talking to other guys and made him step up his game. I suggest you let the man set the pace and have fun with dating. You should search on here and read 5 ways to ruin a budding relationship.
Carol
I met this guy @ my work place liked each other from the very day our eyes locked together,he didn’t asked for my number though and even if he would I wouldn’t have given him.Time passed and here he was again came since i was not busy with work we sat and had a chat it was great he said he couldn’t sleep so he had to come and have a drink but before he left he asked if he could get my number and this time I gave him felt like we have known each other for long,he didn’t call the 3rd day decided to check on him since he had flashed me,we talked and promised to come @ my work place when am around,he did he asked me to wait for him before I leave and surprisingly he came with his buddies,I didn’t know what to do said hi and left but he was cool with it since we are just friends.What I don’t really understand is why text during the night and not day?????and I don’t like it am not his booty call or ever I been someone’s else,please advise me cause am loosing interest on the person I thought we felt the same way
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