Why is he ignoring me but looks at my snapchat stories?

I think you are looking for more… You care way too much to be a FWB..

Sorry to be blunt

I do care Diane, purely because I have known him for a very long time. I don’t want this FWB thing ending to be the cause of him vanishing out of my life, also because it means our mutual friends will most likely go with him.

It was never just a basic FWB situation, he lured me in with all the damn cuddling and chats about life and what not. I am just trying to salvage what we have because when it’s good and we stick to the rules, its reeeeeally good.

Stefanie, that’s vulgar.

Aww Lane…hugs. you will make the right decision . Tessa ..you sound too involved. and yes fwb DO cuddle…discuss things….BUT you are Still only a fwb at the end if the day. They will leave in a heartbeat for ‘the one’

I think men don’t like it to be easy. They like to pursue and win us over, or they expect us to fall for them and want relationships. And when we’re openly having sex with them and don’t expect a relationship, they don’t believes us or they don’t know how to deal with us. Poor little babies :)

Tessa, I’m not familiar with snapchat. Does he know that you can see that he’s looking at your stories? Or maybe he is thinking he’s stalking you without you knowing about it?

Tessa. …I think he is just keeping you on a string. cut loose. It sucks when they don’t want us back….just been there done that. You. …want MORE than fwb. …If you ONLY wanted fwb…you would forget about him as soon as the sex was over..or an hour or two later and NOT wonder when he will next be in touched. to do fwb…you have to remain emotionally detached.

Please ditch this guy.your heart will only get more thrashed

You may think going to a “professional’ is “vulgar” – you certainly have a right to your view, and sorry to hear you were offended.

However, I was serious. Why do you think so many men do it???? Just to be clear, the professionals aren’t really charging for doing the deed… they are charging for going away and keeping quiet unless you contact them. THAT is my point. If you really, really (and I don’t mean you specifically I mean any person) want to have complete control over an FWB, the only way is to pay your FWB.

Tessa – FWBs do cuddle, share, chat, go out with you sometimes, introduce you to the people in their lives. It all depends on what kind of friendship you have. I only message my FWB about my schedule or he does about his. We do not have texting conversations. It does take him sometimes a whole day to reply back as his schedule is all over the place and he needs to be home to double check it before replying back. What was not acceptable to me earlier was that he used to take 2-3 days to reply back and that too after a reminder. And I messaged him saying that that was not acceptable and if he wanted our arrangement done that was fine. He messaged back and apologised and since then has been quite mindful. Also another thing was that he loves to hug and kiss and cuddle in public and I am not comfortable doing that with an FWB. For me that is more a bf territory. So last time him and I had a talk where I told him that I was not comfortable with such behaviour and he promised to stop. I told him I did not mind holding hands but not the rest. Kissing and cuddling when seeing a movie that’s fine.

IMO if you cannot have a proper talk when you are just casual with a guy, then you might as well end it. As you do not really need the added stress when life is stressful as it is.

Sorry to hear it Tessa. Not the guy for you then. I”m sure there are other men who would appreciate you and the kind of relationship you’re willing to offer right now. Don’t worry about him. It still must hurt. It feels a little inhuman.

*a much stronger statement

Look, if you find it any helpful, my fwb done the same exact thing to me, i mean the fading out of the blue, and that after sending me a pic of his hot naked torso saying ‘for you’! Never heard of him again after that, although i sent him in response an equally sexy pic of myself..no reply, no reaction, nothing..given there was no question in that last message of mine, i gave it a week and called. No answer. I didnt leave a message. No call back. And since i have a policy one un answered text+one unanswered call=drop it, i let it go, al thought my ego was hurting. Just went on with my Life like before met him. Recontacted my previous fwb, and although the sex was not as good, still, i at least had the attention. Hé disappeared from my Life, just like that, without warning even though we were talking almost all nights..hé still Kelly me on fb though..dont know if hé was following me though, but i was, at the beginning and from time to time mainly to find an answer. Well, couldnt find any évidence of a ‘new’ woman. So i just dropped it. Basically did the NC. Well, we met at one party briefly, just said hello quicly and ignored him the rest of the time and left quickly. Well two weekend after, hé texts me (29 days into NC) ‘hi, How are you?’ I was gonna answer stg nasty but my gf advised me to say just ‘good, and you’? Hé replied, we chatted but i stayed neutral, but positive about my Life, and no mention about our past. Two weeks later, hé invités me to his party. I went, we looked at each other and it was clear there still was stg. Hé texted me afterwards that it was Nice to see me and that he hopes to see me there next week also. I took it from there and i told him i just wanted to see if the attraction was still there.. And that it was a shame it ended that way. Hé replied ‘it ended? I never said goodbye!’ Hé said hé missed me, so i said fine, but involved with someone else, so he ll have to just wait until im done with that person. We took it on from there, that was 4 monthes ago, and we are still on, stronger than ever. And hé is behaving so far :). So just to tell you that men are strange animals, its not excluded he ll come back like nothing happened. Live your Life and love it! Thats the vibe you wanna send to the world. He Will come around, its a question of time.

Oh wow flower, that really does go to show exactly how “casual” the whole process really is hey? I suppose we either accept thats how it will be or we dont.

He finally replied to my text last night which said “So I guess were done hanging out then?” with “I guess so” to which i said “why?” and he wrote “do i need a reason” and so i tried to pull it back to the sex and wrote “guess ill need to go find someone else to enjoy fooling around with aye?” he wrote “it shouldnt be too hard, a pretty girl like you” so i said “never implied it would be hard luv. youre a strange littel poppet. the one time i dont actually fall for you!” and he wrote “lucky for you then” (meaning the fooling around i am presuming not the feelings?” so i said “so ‘i guess so’ is clear confirmation you’re done then” to which he said “i guess” and i wrote “wtf does that even mean boy? you drive me insane in and out of the bedroom *angry face*” and he wrote “you just messaged me yesterday saying i guess we arent hanging out anymore so i say i guess” and i wrote “it was a question. it only requires a yes, a no or a maybe in a week once you back the eff off!”

I feel a bit better about the situation now i have had a response and seemed semi reluctant to end it so i presume i just back off and go on with my life and if he returns, so be it.