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Amber
I’ve been sleeping with this guy for roughly 3 months and we never had the conversation about what it is we where doing. We talk almost everyday and he’ll occasionally send me snapchats of him hanging out with other girls and in other girls rooms. I’m not sure what he’s trying to get at by doing this and not sure if I should ditch him or what?
Better off single
Who knows talk to him about it.
Warasen
It could be a game to make you jealous. It shows you he had other options in women. It’s a sign of immaturity, I was that guy 20 years ago LoL.
hs
he’s either trying to make you jealous, or trying to show you it’s just casual and he’s seeing others
Lane
I highly doubt he’s trying to make you jealous if he’s been doing it the entire time. It sounds like its his way of setting boundaries with you, that he’s still *looking* for someone else to call GF, or if he’s not looking for one at all and is just playing the field—in time waster or time keeper mode.
I would either end this, or at a minimum take sex off the table and just be platonic friends if you want more than what your getting.
Tallspicy
“So I have been sleeping with this guy for 3 months” SAYS IT ALL. Any man who is going to be your boyfriend will lock it down pretty fast. If at this point, he has not, he is not going to. You talking to him about it won’t change anything.
Here are some options:
A. talk about what you want and ask him what he wants. If it is anything other than I am open to a relationship with the right person assume it is over and then send what I suggest point B.B. End it with him (with or without a conversation). Evan Mark Katz has good stuff on this. “Bob, thanks so much for reaching out to see me. I have given it some thought and I do not think we are on the same page. I am looking for a boyfriend, and this does not seem to be going that way, so I am going to say goodbye. Best of luck to you”. If he wants to be your boyfriend, he will try to get clarity and fix it, but most likely he will let you go.
MEN WHO WANT TO BE BOYFRIENDS ACT LIKE BOYFRIENDS AND DO IT QUICKLY.
Learnings for you for next time:
A. Do not sleep with men before they are exclusive with you if you want a relationship or cannot handle it being casual.
B. Tell people what you want and ask what they want early (like date 3/4 early)If you are no aligned, do not engage
Dangerouse
Sending you pics of other girls is means he’s not real worried about losing you
Amy
Are you guys in college? He sounds very immature..and how do you treat him? Are you clingy or cool? He’s trying to make you jealous..but do you want a guy like this? Most likely not and he probably has A LOT of growing up to do. I would ignore his stupid snaps cause that’s what they are..lame. Consider not sleeping with him anymore because he’s being a D bag. If he was a true player he would be way more discrete. You don’t have to be angry with him but treat him as a friend. If he wants to get with other girls, then let him. His loss not yours. And most likely he won’t succeed at getting laid because his game sucks. xox
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