Why would a ghoster keep you on social media?

I just thought it was odd that he kept viewing all my snapchats after he stopped texting /calling/dating me

Basically we were seeing each other for 4 months..officially together but a hour apart.
He ghosted me and I found out he was seeing another woman a few days later who lived the same area.

Many “men” (I use this term loosely), like to keep women on a back burner for when they are bored and lonely.

Read the “how do I do dump her” post.

It’s an ego and thing and only for their own benefit.

Any guy who would ghost me would be immediately deleted (and blocked) from him everything.

No second chances. They have shown their a$$. I don’t want to see it again

He told me he had cheated on Exs before and had a history of lots of short term things so I’m telling myself try not to take it personally and maybe he just has a wandering eye.
I wouldn’t of been as hurt if he hadn’t of told me I was a keeper and seen a future.
Idiot

Is his name John?

When a man tells you he’s cheated and mostly had short term flings, he’s giving you the gift of showing its big red flags up front

That is someone to walk away from. Not get involved with!

Please recognize this for any future prospects

Phillygirl-you gave me some good advice last time as well along with lane and Shannon,it really helped me and I know now about red flags etc

Lol the John is a joke: how to dump my gf. Its another threat.
Yeah i remember that loser. Who lived with his parents. Only red flags. He did you a huge favour with ghosting on you. I remember me and a few others saying this guy was bad news all over the place. Im so sorry you still cant see that and only sorry that another girl was better than you. You really need to adress your selfesteem if guys like that can creep in your life.

@Newbie – John seemed genuine he first couple posts, then ,as someone pointed out, turned very quickly into a mike.

Louisa. Of course YOU are different. What isn’t different is HIM.

This is such a common mistake. Women hope they (just by next being the amazing woman they are) will miraculously turn a turd into a Prince.

It does not happen. This is where self esteem drives success or failure.

A woman with healthy self-esteem looks at a guy like that and says to herself “hell no-ain’t wasting time with that”. Someone who is strufywirh that thinks “maybe I can change him”.

This isn’t an insult just an observation on how lack of self esteem is DIRECTLY tied to lack of good boundaries.

This man baby was never worth a micro second of your time

Forget that pathetic coward and stop caring why he does what he does. A decent guy would not ghost on a woman after 4 months. Block and delete him and if he ever shows up, I hope you know what to do.

With him we met on tinder but he was respectful (at first )
We spoke for a month before meeting,he never said anything rude etc no asking for pics just seemed genuine.
Told me he was looking for a relationship and was a nice guy and how lucky I was to have met him etc
The first month was fab,out here there and everywhere
Then he told me about the kids,no car no place of his own ..by this point I had fell for the person he pretended to be ..then he turned lazy,came over looking scruffy,stains on his clothes etc etc ..stupidly I thought he was just getting comfortable with me.