why would a man add tons of hot girls on Facebook?

My bf had been doing the same on facebook for the first 5 months of our relationship, although he never backed off from me. I raised my concern a few times. He was scared I talked to other men on facebook myself so he deleted all those girls and changed his relationship status and he demanded me the same.

For what I know, guys like him actually don’t take online stuff too seriously. But it does take some work to make them more committed.

Ditto to the self-esteem thing.
Getting attention helps people feel wanted.
Should it bother you?
It would bother me.

I thought that Jessica, but in my case, although I’m an avid facebook user he wasn’t, and didn’t watch my account like I watched his! So when I did add guys as friends (men I actually know) he never noticed or questioned. So random hot guys I doubt he’d notice either!

Likely, because he’s a pig.

I’m boyfriend keep add female to become friends on Facebook, he was my photo in his photo cover and he put in a relationship, he only care about me, I should worry about it

Hi my ex does this but he actually has conversation to some not all. We are trying to make things work again and I wanted to be clear so I ask him straight out if I could see his messages and he did he has been adding a lot of hot women very hot women from all over and yes it did bug me, but yes he talking to them but he’s not hitting on them. So I just take it as he loves beautiful women he always have. I ask him why he does it and he said I don’t know but I’m not trying to get with any of them i am just talking to them. I say don’t freak out and if you have doubts then ask him its better the snooping and driving yourself crazy and if he doesn’t show u then I would say then u have a problem. I been with my ex for 3 years and we decided to take things very slow and try make our relationship last in the future if we decided to be together one last time and try make things work. I’m still learning to accept he looks for women on fb but if he’s be true to me and not being s seezy then I think you and I shouldn’t freak out so much am I wrong?

OP from 2014

We are all humans and sometimes need a little attention from the opposite sex. I don’t think its a major red flag, but I would monitor him from time to time to see if he slips up and express to him the boundaries your comfortable with.

I go thru my boyfriends fb and he has a bunch of friends men & women, but I did notice him contact a few random women that lived thousand of miles away. These women never replied to his msg but when I confronted him about it he points out that he doesn’t even know these women and doesn’t see it as a big deal basically. Not defending him, but if your innocently flirting and have no plans on physically meeting I can see how one might not think its a big deal. I go thru his phone and he msgs his old female friends from his home town. Its playfully flirty sometimes, and they sometimes exchange pics (nothing nude or explicit). These women live in another country. I know ppl who read this may think im stupid for staying but he’s a sweet & good guy. Plus we are always together so the likely hood of him seeing one of those girls is unlikely.

But the main reason why I’m probably cool with is because i do the same things but its a little worse. My bf never went thru my phone but if he did I would have some explaining to do. My male friends all live within my area too, and on top of that Im a woman so new men, old flings, old fwb contact me & probably will never leave me alone unless I move, & change my number, & delete all social media lol but seriously. My bf litterally has or at least portrays more trust in me than I have for him. Because thats what this is really about trust.

But some ppl just want outside attention other than their relationship. Me & my bf talked about it & we both agreed. The bigger picture is when dating or being in a relationship, (investigate lol) communicate, trust, compromise, and get on each others page. If yall cool with it who tf cares what other ppl think

Well.
It’s hard to say, there could be many different reasons other than “the dude really likes girls”., but
I do believe that when a man falls in love with a woman, and if he respects her and her feelings, he wil rid himself of juvenile & selfish motives.
If not:
Well as for me, I do not believe nor did I teach my children double standards. In other words, what is good for him is good to me too.😊
pretty much anyone who is in a relationship with me will be eating what they dish out.
commitment is only given from me to another who deserves it. men who are constantly filling thier heads and hearts with fantasies of other women’s genitals (which all females have) are simply too small minded for me and not worth my heart or commitment.
So for a shortened explanation:
These type of men are not to be taken seriously, other than a play toy that is, until they actually become serious.
Until then ….girls stay happy, single and free 😘

Well.
I’m short explanation….dude has a problem with lust.
A problem YOU can not change.
My honest opinion?
He is too small minded. I wouldn’t see this type as anything other than a toy until he actually becomes serious in love with you. 😊
Until then, these guys simply aren’t worthy of your reaoect, much less your heart.so…. ladies stay happy, single and free.
It’s worth it!😘

I wouldn’t go as far as saying he’s a huge pervert or an awful human being etc etc buuuuut it’s quite a public way of getting ‘masturbation material’ or attention or whatever validation he may be seeking. He either doesn’t give a s**t, isn’t very tactful or isn’t very Facebook savvy.
I would cut the stalking of his profile and just accept he probably isn’t for you regardless of if you really like him or not. You seem like a nice girl, and this will probably bother you more and more the longer you continue to see him. I’d think realistically if you can overlook this and trust that it’s nothing serious, or mention it to him but he will probably be offended and/or embarrassed OR make excuses.

hello.thank you for your post.it saved my very new relationship,as i noticed on my b/f f/b page,recently added friends,always girls,specially stunning half naked call girls-on line sex.-because i am interested on the guy ,i decided giving him time,and see how things will go…or,-i am really confused,and angry and mad wanting revenge,putting nice looking dudes on my wall,and declaring him straight away i will not tolerate such a behavior .that’s better.anyway thanks.