Why would a seemingly interested man block me?

His GF / Wife / SO caught him…

You said you “talked to him several times”. I assume you’ve never met?

People do this all the time on the internet. There are plenty of flakes out there who flirt and indulge in virtual/fantasy interactions, but have no intention of meeting in person.

You said he seemed stable and was not a “fly by night” kind of guy, but you don’t know that. You don’t know this person! You have no idea what he’s like. He’s a stranger.

Don’t take it personally, it has nothing to do with you. If he resurfaces, which he very well might, I wouldn’t engage with him as he’ll just pop in and out like this and waste your time.

And don’t get emotionally attached to guys you don’t know. A person can tell you anything, it doesn’t mean it’s true. You don’t know someone until you’ve spent time with them in person and gotten to know them in various types of situations/circumstances. That’s why folks should date a person for several months before committing to a relationship- to get to know the person.

I’m pretty sure there was no significant other at the time, but his profile did say currently separated. I’m pretty sure this woman is not in his life, but maybe he is a mess.

I think he has been separated for about a year, because he went back to his hometown and rented a house for a year which was ending in July. He said he was excited to see my profile and wanted to come visit me since he was thinking of moving to my general area since it is so beautiful here. He wanted to rush the visit a little.. He said 2 weeks, I said a month, but that seems like no bug deal. Then this morning, I was blocked..

What is wrong with him? Why couldn’t he just text and say he decided we weren’t a match?

Kathy, you’ve read this happening so many times on here that I’m actually surprised you’re so surprised by it. Age is only indicator of how many years you’ve lived on this earth—has nothing to do with a person’s character. Even us old people can still be duped.

Also a huge red flag: a guy who is a total stranger rushing a visit, saying he wants to come visit you because he’s thinking of moving to your area. Him saying that right away should have made you uncomfortable, not excited or interested.

LOL – “currently separated” – there’s your answer. He was either never “separated” or they are no longer separated. STAY AWAY FROM “SEPARATED” GUYS!!

I have a business colleague who wasn’t getting along with his wife and she moved out. I heard from a mutual friend he went online dating and met someone and had an LDR with her for 3 months. When it came time to fly to meet her, he suddenly vanished on her because he told our friend he was in love with her and wanted to marry her (never having met her) but was afraid of being hurt so pulled back. In actuality, his wife decided to move back in and he didn’t want to hurt her. He doesn’t want to be with his wife anymore but they have children and he’s going to wait to leave her until the last child gets out of high school, which is 5 years from now. I was shocked. This is someone I know well on a work level and I believed had a lot of integrity. This only came out because I mentioned to our mutual friend he was having a tough time because his wife had moved out – this friend was utterly shocked because they were unaware he was married and heard this whole story from him over 3 months about how he was lonely and getting online hoping to meet the love of his life and did. He told this mutual friend flat out he was SINGLE. I filled our friend in on the part that his wife moved out, was moving back in and he planned to end the marriage later instead of now. We were both absolutely floored at what radically different stories he told. (And I’ve met his wife so I know he really is married and was having all that trouble.)

People do some very strange things.

You may never know the truth. You really have to approach online dating with a great dose of health skepticism until you’ve actually met the person and you’ve dated them and they’ve behaved consistently for at least 3 months, and even that is no guarantee they’re for real and telling the truth.

Ah Kathy, they call it ‘Cloaking’ these days, when someone not only stands you up for a date but goes ahead to block you on every platform you communicated on and can reach them so It’s like they never existed and were a figment of your imagination.

The rule thumb if a guy doesn’t wanna meet up or flakes on a meet up, you’re either a side chick, a second/third option, or he’s just not that into you.

Always assume a guy is talking to 5 other girls or even more when you guys are still talking and vibing so he can make a u turn.

Unfortunately, it happens all the time, with men of all ages and professions.

It has happened to me in the past, well this one didn’t block me, he’s alive, well and doing him, but he just stopped speaking to me and when I contacted him I was even met by even more silence. In my case we even met. He ticked all the right boxes and seemed sincere and honorable and ‘together’

I was confused,vexed and shocked. But after I got my head out of his ar*e, I began to see that he wasn’t that perfect as I initially thought, he had a bunch of red flags which I mistook as interest and he told a few lies which seemed negligible at the time because of the hormones but in retrospect were a red flag.

Anyway, I concluded that he just wasn’t that into me, and it’s okay. It set me free to meet with more cool guys. It also taught me not believe the hype and put guys on pedestals they don’t deserve.

What he communicated to you with his actions was, he doesn’t deserve you and he’s not reliable or trustworthy.

At least you know the truth now. He may reach out again with a flimsy excuse, these types sometimes do. The best thing is to just ignore and block him if he does.

Sorry you had to learn the hard way. AngieBaby is right that you need a healthy dose of skepticism when online dating, you can’t trust people right off the bat. A person has to demonstrate that they’re trustworthy and sincere over time, and in person. It doesn’t mean you should be cynical and assume every man is a liar, but you have to be careful. And yes to everything that’s been said about dating separated men– that’s just a bad idea overall.

I don’t know how old are you and how long you’ve been single but that’s online dating for you. Never take it too seriously or get attached to the men you text. Because one day they are super keen the next day they aren’t.
Also some men I spoke to … when I stopped replying because I’ve lost interest, they blocked me even though I had no intention to contact them again . Some people are just weird and there is nothing we can do about that