Why would FWB be lying to me? Do i have a right to be annoyed?

You have rights to feel whatever you feel, but no right to have an opinion. Why is that? Well, you agreed to a fwb. He does not owe you anything in terms of who he sleeps with and when he sleeps with them. If you did not like this as a possibility, you should have never agreed to FWB. Think of it this way – you did not say – I am ok with FWB, but please make sure there is 24 hours between sexual encounters with other people.

As to his lying – well, we do not know if he is lying or not. Maybe he did clean his room, or he just started seeing her or martians sucked out his brain.

Sadly, this is a bed of your making…If you want to get more serious, maybe this is the trigger for that and you can have that discussion….

I guess it is more so the fact we did agree if there are any other partners he would tell me. Specifically due to worries of STD’s. He said he would tell me so if i was concerned he would get tested and show me proof he was clean.

If you are ok with him sleeping with other women then why do you feel the need to know if he is or not? It seems like it shouldn’t matter. One thing is if you both decide to be sexually exclusive and take a time out if either of you have sex with another, but the other thing is having an open FWB but then wanting him to disclose it to you. I guess it’s your perogative, your rules, but I am curious as to your reason for wanting to know more than the fact that you want to know. I guess it confuses me.

And you don’t care who and when he sleeps with as long as it’s what, not the same day, not the same week? Did you tell him this?

Are you sure that you are ok with him having multiple sexual partners at the same time he is sleeping with you?

Also, if he lied, he should have been honest but how would you have reacted?

Are you sure you just want FWB with him?

This all seems very odd to me. I mean what do you want?

Well i suppose it is because he said at first he only wanted to sleep with me but there was no set rule he couldn’t sleep with others. He always said if there were others though he would let me know, so i guess this is one thing we had said from the beginning, so i don’t see why he would feel the need to lie.

I would rather know because of the STD risk as said prior. If he was to say i slept with someone else last night then i would ask if he could get screened so i can see there are no possible issues there. I know he isn’t exclusive to me, but if he said he would let me know knowing my concerns of STD’s but is lying, i wouldn’t find this to be fair at all, and i am feeling very iffy about it and thinking i may cut it off. It is just too risky.

Sarah, you need to act like an adult if you are going to have sex – ask your dr. about safe sex practices. If your FWB slept with a woman last night and got tested today after he told you then his STD would not show up in the test unless he already had an STD. Some STD’s dont’ manifest in the body for 3 months.

I think you are right, this is too risky and you havn’t been handling it in a way that protects your health. If I were you I would end it and get tested and then retested in 3 months.

I agree Tara. I don’t think i am cut out for it at all. It sounds appealing at the beginning, but i can’t stand being lied to. He also would randomly say things like “you are the only girl i want to be with sexually,” and blah blah blah. It just seems too much bs.

I read a lot of male forums and from what I observed, a guy would never admit about the earrings even in a fwb arrangement. Revealing about other women would cause unnecessary drama and he doesn’t want to risk to lose his fb. The goal is to have is much sex as possible the easiest and cheapest way, drama is out of the question, if he wanted drama he would have a girlfriend or wife instead. Just because he agreed with your rules doesn’t mean he will follow through. Anyway, since you are not his girlfriend so you can’t really expect him to bang only you everyday. If you’re worried about stds, fwb is not the way to go.

Sarah, I really hope this doesn’t mean that you were having unprotected sex with a FWB man that you were not in an exclusive sexual relationship with. That is beyond foolish, it could be deadly, seriously, no joke. Please read up on safe sex practices and protect your body and your heart as well.

And phrasing and word usage are golden when you know how to use them… “You’re the only person I WANT to be with sexually” could be an honest statement, he’s prob not lying. But it doesn’t translate to “You’re the only person I AM with sexually”. Two COMPLETELY different things… You’re just taking the first as a substantial comment that in reality carries little weight and is pretty irrelevant.

As a woman that had a FWB, lying is unacceptable. I don’t lie, nor do I have an hidden agenda. We discussed being honest with each other, but he lied to me about seeing another woman for many months and at least two different times I had asked. He finally told the truth 7 months into this other relationship. He wanted to continue being in a relationship and having me as a FWB. Not only did he lie to me, he continued to lie to the other woman about me. I ended the relationship as soon as I discovered his lies.