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anonesk223
I’ve been speaking to someone for a while and he’s a bit hot and cold. When he’s hot, it’s great and we have a lot of chemistry. He doesn’t live very close so a lot of communication is over text.
We were texting the other day and it was fine. I got upset about something so asked if he was free for a chat but he said he had things to do for work – absolutely fine. I made a little joke like “aw I could’ve kept you company, I’m basically an expert at that”. For some reason, after speaking all day, he went quiet and didn’t open this message for 24 hours despite him being online constantly. I gave him 24 hours then sent him another message the next day asking him how his day was – again no response. I sent one more later on asking if he was okay.
Less than a minute later here’s the response I get –
“Jesus leave it out, I’m busy, please stop”. I said that’s absolutely fine but just tell me if you’re busy because I’m not a mind reader. I then got a sarcy reply “usually when people don’t reply it means they’re busy”.I was quite hurt so I just didn’t reply. 24 hours later, I decided to apologise for being annoying and said “sorry, I was a bit down and just wanted to chat, sorry if I was annoying”. Again he keeps coming online and is completely ignoring this text.
What do I do?! I feel like things were so good between us and I have no idea how to play this. He was so interested before. Any advice?
Lulu
Leave it. He’s told you that he’s busy and clearly by his response, he’s annoyed by your follow up messages. The best thing you can do is fill up your time with things that are meaningful and fun for you and take your mind off him. If he cools down maybe he will reach out but the more you reach out after he’s told you he’s busy the more you’ll push him away.
Liz Lemon
You do nothing! You shouldn’t be messaging this guy daily when he’s ignoring you. And even more so when he sent you a sharp reply saying “please stop”.
Have you even met this guy? You said he lives far away so you don’t see him, right? So you don’t really know him. Who knows what’s going on, it could be anything. You said he’s hot and cold, which means he texts you when he feels like it and stops when he doesn’t, right? So it doesn’t sound like the guy takes you that seriously. The fact that you were upset and wanted to talk, but he blew you off, makes me think he doesn’t want things to get that serious- like he’s fine with fun and sexy chatting, but no heavy emotional stuff.
You should completely stop reaching out to him. When a guy withdraws, then you lean way back too. Don’t chase or beg him to pay you attention. As you can see, all it will do is p!ss him off and push him away. Get busy with your life and do other things. If you stop chasing him he may start pursuing you again.
Newbie
Please stop. If sending a message every day is driving this guy nuts then he seriously is not interested. Like you said hot and cold. The thing about hot and cold is that those types are never really interested. And the last thing you should do is chase them
Tallspicy
If this man was not your boyfriend, you should not have been asking him or expecting him to cheer you up. Nor should you have asked to try to talk to him about you being upset at him.
That is for you and your friends. Any why you kept contacting him means you are most likely insecurely attached and was hoping for validation. When a man is not your boyfriend and even if he is… you contact him once and then let him reply and if he never does, so be it.
This guy sounds like a dud anyhow, but you should not be initiating contact with men who are not your boyfriend. That is how you know where you stand with them.
Tallspicy
Btw, are you ok and good morning nexts are boring anyhow and literally add no value. If you must send something (which you should not anyhow), it should be fun and playful and interesting.
Zoe
OMG, its painfull to read. You cornering the guy and he thinks you are NEEDY!
Its not attractive!
STOPSensy
You should move on from him.
Honeypie
my view is actually he is incredibly rude with his response, coupled with you not sending three messages to someone not responding. You are worth more than that.
This is a typical guy who is a waste of time if you are looking for a relationship. Dont bother with men who are chatting when it suites them then put you back on a shelf when they have other things to focus on. This guys not relationship material
Go silent on him for goodmaria
He’s rude.
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