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Kierra
I have a guy friend.. I have been feeling a different vibe from him lately..
Im usually the initiator of phone calls, but lately, he has called me everyday. Timing of day is sporadic. Sometimes before work and sometimes during. He talks softer to me, he was saying excuse me when he was coughing on the other end of the line which is odd for him and this confuses me because Im not sure if hes into me. I have feelings for him, but Im trying not to get my hopes up. When he does call, he just kind of sits there.. doesnt really engage. So to me im thinking negatively like hes calling out of obligation because hes not engaging but the hopeful part is thinking he just wants to hear my voice. ALSO he called me to tell me he was leaving for vacation tomorrow and wanted to talk before he left, as we wont talk while hes away…but again, he talked softly and didnt have much to say. The only difference is I kind of stopped initiating calls to him because I felt we were on the verge of one sided ness so I stopped.. what do you all think?Lane
I think you are wasting your time. Its possible he was ‘softer’ because he didn’t want someone to hear him, like another woman…just sayin.
I think you need to get out, and start meeting other guys. He’s not the only guy in the world, lots out there, so go meet them! :o)
If your too bullheaded, let him do the work but also let him know you aren’t going to allow him to waste your time, and if he doesn’t step up, your stepping out to meet a man who wants to be with you. At least tell him what you want, and if doesn’t want it, then go on your merry way—men find confident, and self-empowering women to be very sexy btw!
Kierra
Yeah, I kind of had the same thoughts too.. Im curious, as a general questiom though, will men call women on a regular basis even if they dont want to? Would most men do it out of an obligation of sorts? I feel as if most men dont have time to do something they dont want to do..
Kathy
I think he’s interested.
Elvira
It appears that he does have an interest in you but the only way to find out is to ask him if he is interested in you as more than a friend. Or you can continue to play the “let me see if he eventually steps us game”. You don’t say what type of friendship you had other than you initiating a lot of the calls prior. I say that because I had guy friends who would text/call me but it was strictly friends, some guys like the constant communication with a girl who is a friend. So again the only way to really know the answer is to ask. Also, I know it is a tricky situation because if he says no he is not interested in anything other than a friendship then you might feel differently towards him and choose to change the dynamics of the friendship. Either way I think it is better to know rather than to continue to evaluate his every move. Good luck!
Kathy
And no, most men won’t call out of obligation…
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