Will a Single Man fall in Love with a Married Women?

I think the bigger question is why are you engaging in an affair when you are married? Affairs usually are just about sex and don’t often materialize into anything other than that. If you are seeking an emotional connection with someone who is not your husband, then get divorced and start dating.

It’s for the sex, he knows you are married, men love sex with married women because they think they won’t have to be in a relationship with the woman.

If you are unhappy in your marriage that you are looking for love elsewhere then I’d suggest marital counseling before an affair. The last thing you need is to be in a loveless marriage and get your heartbroken by a man who is going to use you for sex and then abandon you when you are most vulnerable. That would be more hurtfull than being in a lonely marriage.

NO!!! A smart single man will NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH A MARRIED WOMAN…He may have sex with her, but love, NEVER until she is a free woman first.

why upset the apple cart? work on your marriage. you havent got along with one man.. what great thing are u hoping for with second man??

Why do you want him to fall in love with you?

I’m wondering if you have some romantic notion he’ll sweep into your life and carry you away from your unhappy marriage? If so in 99.999% of cases that won’t happen.

If I was single I wouldn’t be with someone who was married not only for moral reasons but because I’d be concerned I’d fall for them and get hurt. He obviously doesn’t have those concerns so I’d assume he doesn’t feel he’ll fall for you. I’m sure he likes you but I’d see this as FWB, definitely not love.

I’ve been where you are now. I got terribly hurt and ended up with a broken heart and still all the same problems in my marriage that were there before the affair. I think an affair is a bit like turning to alcohol…it takes your mind off any difficulties in your life, gives you a thrill and excitement, but is ultimately very damaging. I’m not judging at all, as I said I’ve made this mistake myself!

First things first. You took vows with a man to whom you pledged your life and fidelity. If you cannot keep your vows it is time to go to counseling or end your marriage.

You cannot give full attention to anyone else while you are conducting a relationship. Someone will suffer from neglect.

I just ended up mine … We both are passionately in love with each other yet we both decided to end it for the reasons that I want to work on the core problems of our marriage and that I want to give him the “normalcy” he so deserved … We both ended up in tears … So if you are up to it for whatever reasons you have, just sont expect the road to be easy … Just sayin

I truly feel like u should let him go there are so many guys in this world and he is to no good.

If he does fall in love with you, he likes unavailable women and if you become single he won’t want you. And you won’t be able to trust him, ever, nor will he he able to trust you. Either fix your marriage or get out. An affair is not the answer, it’s only a Band-Aid that will be extremely painful when ripped off. And it will get ripped off, no question.

And no, your case is not different.

Daniela,

I just want to answer your original question first. I am a single (but taken) man who has fallen in love with a married woman.

Originally, for me, it was about finding consistent sex with one person who I didnt have to “date”. She put it that way as well. We became friends very quickly and the sex of course was amazing. Eventually she gave me the ultimatum to leave or stay. She had begun to develop feelings for me… She didnt know that I was developing feelings for her as well. Neither of us ran when the true feelings came out.

From there the relationship was a roller coaster. Crazy awesome times, followed by bleak depressing lows. I suffered heavily in this relationship and it took quite a toll on me. I even hurt myself because I could not have her. Even though she expressed her love for me, she still loved him too.

If he loves you, you will know. But you can never be prepared for that heart break when its over.

I think you should post more about your situation at home. Obviously something is wrong there or you are just looking for fun, I hope it is not the latter. There is a reason people make those vows.

I can tell you that I was married to a psychopath, it has gotten increasingly worse over time. While I was married I fell in love with someone else who was a friend. Also I had other guy friends asking me out and my ex fiancee. I did not do it. No matter how much I suffered at home, it would have only made things much worse for everyone involved. Also there is honesty and fairness.

My marriage was truly horrible and one I knew I had to end as soon as possible but first you close a door, then you open another. Even though I had had no love for my ex husband for a year I waited it out, albeit too long, until I could end it, it was not easy.

Happiness is not possible until you are open and ready. The question is not about him, it is about you. Of course you should care and hope he does not fall in love with you while you are married as that would be wanting to hurt two people, your husband and this guy. But the most important question is what is going on with you and that needs to be worked out.

Well I’m in that situation now. We worked together and she is a newlywed who married her highschool sweetheart. We at first were just friends and would just go out, then we became physical as just told each other that was all it was going to be. Then about 6 months have gone by and we fell in love. Her husband is a nice guy and I feel horrible but she says that if she would’ve met me earlier, we would be together. Well its probably good, but her husband just got a promotion and they are moving away. I told her we should just stop talking s9 it makes it easier on her. But it kills me bc I can’t be with her and I told her they should try counseling and stuff before we would start talking again. Btw her husband ok, but he pretty much is a male chauvinist and believes she is there to please him. And i was raised in a home where my mom was the bread winner. Should I stop talking to her? Or should I ask her if there is any chance in the future for us, so I’m not wasting my time, oh and btw our hearts are broken so please take time to think before u have an affair, it’s very painful