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Joyanna Sandler
Who can safely assume a man can’t fall in love with a married woman? I have read many stories online where men have confessed to falling in love with a married women. Look at the married celebrities who have affairs who fall in love with a single lover. It may seem on a higher percentage of being impractical based on sex only, but falling in love does happen in some cases. And let’s say it’s just based on sex only. So what? For many married women, it’s a big reason why they have an affair with a single man to find satisfaction away from a cold dead husband at home. And who thinks married women are looking for strings attached?
As a once single woman, I discovered men were just out for sex, and love and leave you anyway. Suggesting divorce may have many believing you will have more guarantees in finding men who will fall in love with you. Don’t bet on it.Waseem Shaikh 9742384059
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William
Astonishing enough, this just happened to a buddy of mine in South Texas. Hope your not the same Daniela. It’s a free Country but what your doing is just wrong. You will probably be kicked out on the street with you son, end your marriage.
Stacy
I’ve been where you are, and take my advice and save yourself a lot heartache -Walk AwAy. Cause he will see other women!!!
Assi
I just had mine ended two weeks ago. I met this guy before I got married. It was a fling though I know he showed interest in me before but it was just fun for me. He found me again and we started having constant communication. At first it was fun and he was making me feel good so why deprive myself when life is short. But I slowly realized I am falling for him and I can feel he feels the same too.It’s a little unfair because we were sweet the last time we talked. He even asked me if I was planning to divorce my husband so we can talk seriously. Though the truth was sometimes I thought about it but I didn’t open it to him. I still told him no I have no plans of divorcing my hubby. I was so confused! My feelings for him is stronger than what I feel for my husband but my husband is so good to lose. I know I will never find another man who can love me like my husband do. That’s why I just stopped communicating with that other man hoping I can forget him and be focused with my husband. The other man is very nice and he deserves someone better who is single like him. I know it’s unfair because I didn’t say goodbye to him, I just disappeared after our sweet plans. But I know he will be alright. I will just let destiny rules! God knows who’s best for me.
Mary
This thread makes me not want to get married..
Phillygirl
This thread doesn’t make me marriage averse, but it does tell me to be very careful about WHO I marry.
I don’t believe all people cheat. But I do believe if you can cheat like this without any guilt or remorse, it says much about you.
If you don’t want to be with your spouse, end it. If you do, then learn how to communicate better and stop running around on them.
No one said successful relationships are easy and problem free, but nothing worth doing is easy.
I pay very close attention to see if someone exhibits integrity in every area of their lives. I don’t keep people around who don’t. It doesn’t guarantee I’ll never be cheated on, but it significantly decreased the risk.
Nothing in life is promised, but I consider cheating a very serious mistake in judgement and values. I don’t give a cheater a second chance, because I’m not spending my life in doubt and being unable to trust someone.
The fact that some people don’t think there is even something wrong with cheating as long as it makes them happy, makes me rather ill.
I don’t befriend (let alone date) people who think it’s okay to be completely selfish as long as you don’t get caught. Yuck!
Della
In response to Assi:
I completely empathize with you. I haven’t had an affair, but I did cheat on my husband. That alone was enough to make me want to disappear from everything… and we had recently had our first child. What people must understand is that cheating can happen to almost anyone… I NEVER thought that I would, but I did.. so be very careful. Fortunately, the other guy and I stopped communicating shortly after. And my husband is starting to trust me again… however, I recently started back talking to the guy I cheated with and I feel like I’ve betrayed my husband get again. Unfortunately, A seed has been sown ( ever since the sexual encounter happened) and I need to pray until I no longer have this desire. Prays works ????
Raven
It only works to pray if you show some self control…
Anonymous
I’ve read all of these comments and opinionated answers to the question presented.
Here’s my take on this:
I am a single man, been single for a little over a year now. I too have recently come across a married woman. Started out unharmful, no intentions of anything but friendship. Very quickly it really just clicked for both of us. Yes, i am deeply in love with a married woman now. Crazy we have lived in the same town our entire lives, remember seeing each other, but never knew each other. We literally live only 3 minutes apart.
We have indeed discussed the future, there are more details I’d give but obviously the closed minds of those that truly have never been in the situation would be quick to judge.
We are so similar in personality and needs, yet our few differences balance really well. We only get to hold each other a few hours 1 night a week. But we talk 6 days a week multiple times thru the day. For example: she goes to the gym at 5am, she calls me when she starts driving and we talk til she gets there, then she messages me while there n calls me on her way home. I then go to work. Lunch break, we talk. When i get off work, we txt til about 10pm then she calls me n we talk til 2am. Same the next day…..
Sundays we don’t talk much. Saturday night OR sunday nights she comes over for a few hours. We are already planning “family” events with all the kids, zoo…aquarium…hiking…park.. everything.
Have we discussed why she hasn’t left him yet? Yes. Financial security. Which very soon i will be capable of. NO she isn’t a gold digger. They have 3 kids, it costs more for child care than it would be worth for her to work. She says she feels like they have just become roommates, there’s no passion, she got pregnant n her family told her she had to marry him. He cheated while she was pregnant. NO this isn’t a payback. But i do feel the reason for their marriage wasn’t true love. They just settled.
I see ALLOT thru her eyes, and her touch. Words can be lies, but the look in someone’s eyes and touch isn’t a lie. I know things about her he doesn’t even know. I accept her flaws as beauty. So judge me like i know you will, but im in love with a married woman.Dasty
Hi
I am a married woman. I have a guy friend who is 11-12 years younger than me. We met online in a game. We became close and he added me on Facebook, and I accepted. We only knew each other for 6-7 months. Everytime we talk he is very sweet and caring always asks how my day was. He knew I was unavailable and have someone else. Over time I developed strong feelings for him and I was always casual and acted professional with him even if inside I am breaking because I cannot tell him how I feel. I suspected that he also have developed strong feelings for me and we always tell each other that we care for each other like a brother and a sister. We have not started an affair yet and it’s already very devastating. I am pained and hurting because of the suppressed feelings and because I am missing him. I don’t want to act on these feelings and am hoping that these will pass. Unfortunately at the moment it did not yet and I am suffering like hell! I know he is too and am feeling so sorry for him.Raven
This is a fantasy? Have you met this guy in person?
What are you not getting from your marriage that causes you to create a romance in your head?Minka
I agree with the answer for most it is a bad idea. However in my church there was an
older couple and the wife had Alzheimers. When she got very ill with it and the husband had been so devoted he ended up getting a “helper” for his wife and Im sure he
was having relations with this woman who he brought to church a few times. Under those
circumstances I believe it is ok. What about people who end up in the war and come home( unable to have sex anymore )in a wheelchair. Is the wife just supposed to not have
sex ever again? Its not so black and white as you all think.BUT I will say that if a
person is seeking sex outside of marriage better to find a partner that you wont want
to fall in love with or have a future with. Why? because like some of you mentioned,a man will still see you as a cheater or if he gets any thrill out of an affair and then
you are free he will not be able to trust you nor was you him. AND look out older ladies,
when your spouse is ill…the old men lining up to give you some lovin and counting your cash .That happened to my sister,quite good looking married 20 years. SpouseMinka
Spouse was terminally ill. Many men swarming around her and a few she got cozy with.
Then one guy made all these promises(so slick) When her spouse passed away he did date her but she was just another horse in the corral. Finally a year or so later when she
was more clearheaded and in charge of her life she started dating carefully and met a great man but is going very slow. I think a lot of men like married women because the married ones are NOT used to all the slickness on a daily basis like the single ones are=married committed women with $$$ and sick spouse is easy target for sex and romance.Paula
My fiance is having an affair with a married woman and it’s clear they feel they are in love. I know better, so I’m standing on the side line waiting to see how they resolve matters. I’ve spoken to him about it and he denies it all. Yet he tells lies to go meet up with her and even go on trips with her because she is a flight attendant and gives him buddy passes. Her husband is a pilot and probably cheats on her too. No integrity, honest or true trust now exist. Can’t end well but they are in denial. Guess they have their reasons but got caught up with the wrong things. He is no longer good to marry. Can’t wait to find out how they end up. I see them as two fools who haven’t a true clue about the mess they are in. She is 45 and he is 30 years old. Too bad Tamara couldn’t teach him nothing but deceit. Silly, insecure, hurting married woman whose misery likes company. Don’t continue to be like her. Learn to be a good person.
Gatsby
Just forget about that person. Ive been in love with my childhood friends wife for years. A few hours ago i confessed to her that for years ive been in love with her. It wasnt the reaction i had hoped for. Im certain from all of these post that in favor of cutting all communications with this significant other. Im grateful she rejected me it was for the best for their children. I just wanted her to know is. Those are lies now im a ghost like gatsby gentle grasping on a love that was never meant to be.
James
You just need to relax and forget it! Go meet with a first girl on the street)) But if you’re difficult to dating with a girl, you can go internet to and meet or talking with are beautiful girls)) For example, I’m afraid approach to girl on the street, and that’s why I prefer acquaintance with girl in internet )))
Chloe
Stephen, I related to your real response to Daniela. You read and made a real response and did not bash like others. For some reason it seems unbelievable to some a single man falling in love with a married women. However, married men not only fall for younger women, but they leave their wives for them…smh. Well my story, we met at work, started out with flirting on his end, no, I did not put a stop to it, then texting followed for several months. After 8 months we had sex, yes he was very involved in a relationship
of 3 years at the time. Before we ever had sex
feelings started developing, but neither of us
expressed them at the time. Time came, and
after a year he moved to be with his out of
state girlfriend to see if it could work. …with
intentions of getting engaged.
Things were to end with us, but they didn’t, within a week he said things weren’t working out. .and he hadn’t realized how much he loved me until he had left. He eventually confessed he was in love with me, and wanted to continue with me.Chloe…..continued
Well needless to say, we’ve continued our affair, no sex involved. …we have a deep emotional connection. Although he remains off and on with his girlfriend, at which this point is off because she wants to get married and he doesn’t. I’m still married with no intentions of leaving my husband. We both have a very real deep love for each other.I was 43 and he was 27 at the time, we are emotionally connected to each other, and our feeling are the real thing. So to the bashers , don’t be so quick to judge and make proclamations about what will happen when a single man falls for a married women. And no, I wasn’t neglected at home, and I’m a very attractive 40 + woman that looks damn good , and if you met me you would never think that I’m in my forties. Not delusional, just the truth.
sclair
How about if affair (married lady) with single guy long distance been going on for 7 years and just gets better? But gotta raise kids. When does a women decide between motherhood and staying, or letting go. Posts are insightful. Though 7 years into affair at long distance, I honestly don’t think my life w raising kids would mesh good with his life. It’s always been about me and him only when we are together. But my children are my priority. It’s sad. I asked my husband to leave, but he won’t. For financial reasons we stay together. life gets more confusing sometimes.
L
Hi. I’m sure you’re bothered by the feelings. I’m sure it wasn’t your intention to get caught up in something like this. So first, ignore all the rude comments shallow people gave to you simply because they don’t understand the rule of attraction. I feel like I needed to comment here to let you know that it’s okay. We fall in love with people and things can happen out of our control. We can’t stop attraction. You, as a married woman, are a human beings. You have feelings. There are no rules when it comes to falling in love. It could happen to anyone at anytime. He could be in love with you or he could only wants sex. Only you know the answer to this. Use your head first, look at the signs, and you may find your answer. But always know that this kind of relationship will come with inevitable pain. All kinds of forbidden love is the same. But it’s okay. You’re human. You can make mistake. Youcan feel pain. Or you can be strong. And fight for what you think is right. Good luck.
Phillygirl
First of all this thread is old, and the OP is long gone.
Secondly, if you are an adult you own and are responsible for your feelings and what you do about them. We always have a choice in what we do, or don’t do.
It is not shallowness to tell someone they are behaving in a manner unbecoming and unacceptable.
Society seems to be going in the direction of people having zero accountability, or ownership of bad decisions and behaviors.
It’s called INTEGRITY, when you know right from wrong, and choose the right path even though it’s the hard one.
Children make excuses for bad behavior. Adults and people with a moral compass (and a conscience) take ownership and make better choices.
To anyone who takes issue with this… all I have to say is, pull up your big girl panties and grow the heck up.
J
I was very unhappy in my marriage. Was married for 13 years and was never loved by my husband. I started seeing one guy. we fell in love. I got separated from my husband. My Ex Bf said he will be with me through thick and thin…my Divorce got nasty, Took longer than expected. My Ex BF left me saying he can’t handle the drama. Not that I regret leaving my ex husband, I am so glad my ex Bf came in my life at that time to show me my worth but if you have no issues in your marriage, don’t indulge in any relationship.
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