Will a Single Man fall in Love with a Married Women?

I am in the same situation right now. I am torn between two lovers… my husbanf and my bestfriend for 11 years. I didnt want it to happen but it did. Today I made a really painful decision, to end the affair and focus on my marriage. I stopped all the communication with my bestfriend but Im telling you the pain is too much that I couldnt stop crying. But I know he will thank me one day for doing it. He deserve more than what I can give him. I care, respect and love him enough to let him go. I do not him to be the the OTHER MAN when he can be THE ONE to a single woman. Think it out carefully and do not make a mistake that you will regret in the future.

This is truly a wonderful response and I too have been in this situation.
You do owe it to the spouse to either try at reconciling the marriage and fixing what maybe wrong or deciding that to leave is the better option releasing your husband from a marriage that he can go find someone else who truly loves him.
I am not judging but everything that this lady above has said rings true. Most people I speak to and read about similar events all day the grass is definitely not greener on the other side. People are not what they really seem and when the truth is finally seen disappointment happens all round. The other person caught up in this triangle will also get their heart broken and it’s better to be a lonely heart than a broke one.
I made my decision to terminate all contact even though I had very deep feelings for the other man and he truly did fall hard for me, I realised before it was all too late that it was an unfair and cruel thing I was doing to my spouse and a deception to the other man giving him false dreams of being together. The biggest mistake of my life however I have learnt from this mistake and never to be repeated. Concentrating 120% now on my future with my husband who is a good man and never deserved to be hurt.
All the best

In reply to Assi
I wonder how you are now and what happened with you?
I have a similar situation and looking for some words of advice.

No a single man will never love a married woman how much ever truly woman loves her even if u give your life for him still he sill not. I was unhappy in my mariage i met this ugly poor orphan man i supported him so much. I have been through all this. He not only used me thoroughly took money from me and then rudely threw me out of his life and married a beautiful young girl. MY situation now is so miseable no one in this world had been so bad with me everyday i think of him curse him i want to kill him chop him into pieces and he is enjoying his life. I had to go to psychatist for treatment stopped getting sleep its been one and half years still there is not a single day i dont think of him. its my advise to all those woman never do the mistake waht i did.

I stopped loving my husband and was stuck to him for kids i wanted kids to grow up little then I will leave him everything was fine till i went to court to file divorce with my husband as i was unhappy with him and his real face came out. He threw me out of his life so rudely and with in 3 months got married to such a beautiful girl he is so happy enjoying his life with her and i was like…. couldnt believe he was using me for sex and money. and look at his guts after getting married he contacted me again telling he loves me and miss me which later on i found out he wants more money so he thinks he can still fool with his sweet words. how sweet he use to talk everything was lie the saddest part is i got attached to him removing him fm my life was the tuffest job for me its been more than one and half years there is not a single day i dont cry thinking of him. i want to kill him this revenge feeling is killing me i m not able to enjoy my life and now i m not able to trust anyone else. how to stop thinking of him? how to take out this revenge feeling? i m living in a conservative society cannot talk to anyone about my problem. what to do?

Your afraid he might treat another woman better, but not that he might kill you?

Geez, if this is not a fake post bite me. lol

I think you should also donate your kidney to him. Or wait, no need, simply wait until he beats it out of you.

this is from 2015…wtf???

OK here we go, I’m the husband and my wife is having an affair with a co-worker whom she only knew a few months. She makes up stories just to be with him talks for numerous amount of time on the phone with him from my understanding he’s single with no kids and lives alone on the other hand we have 4 boys and just purchased our first home together.we’ve been together for 13 years and married for 8 years the problems started when she started this new job all of a sudden I don’t do this I don’t do that she having mixed emotions she is mentally tapped out she doesn’t want to talk to me it’s almost like we are roommates I recently asked for a divorce she refuses constantly saying she doesn’t want it. She loves me so much when asked about the affair she denies it I’m trying to look pass this whole thing but I can’t I can’t trust her. So my question is, is there a possibility they could be falling in love with each other or just enjoying the sex and conversation hoping they will not get caught.could he r early want her knowing she married with 4 kids pls. help

Maine,
She works with him and has formed an emotional connection with him.
A far as I’m concerned, she’s probably much more into him than he is with her. I think she is bored at home…he gave her some complements..”you look nice today”..blah blah and she has developed a big crush on him…she likes the attention. No…chances are he wouldn’t have a serious relationship with a married woman who has 4 children..what single guy would want all that drama?

How do you know she has had sex with him? If it continues like this…it may just happen.
I would put my foot down …if she is serious about wanting to stay married and her love for you…she shouldn’t hesitate to cut ALL contact with this guy….even to the point of looking for a new job.

What this guy is doing is exactly what she needs. Woman like to be complimented and feel cherished. She is trapped, she doesn’t want to lose you or this guy. I suggest marriage counselling. You need to start “dating” her from over and keep “dating” her forever more. Affirm and compliment her all the time. Discover what her needs are via therapy and do ur best to meet those needs forever more. She won’t ever have this void and allow somebody else to fill it. She will be fullfilled.
That is just the way it works in all relationships.
My wife of 9 yrs slept with her lover in our marriage bed, she was literally his sex doll for 7 months. Yes, I know all the details. We have two kids. Today after therapy and a lot wiser I am moving forward with her. I fullfill her needs all the time and you know what, I am happier than ever before. We also have sex nearly everyday now.
This can be fixed but u need to really put in the hard work to fix it. Remember this, “Passion and rewards lie on the other side of hard work”.

Yes a single man can fall in love with a married woman. It depends on her status and if she can do and go places as a girlfriend can do.

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