Will a Single Man fall in Love with a Married Women?

I’m in the same situation. Married and seeing a single man who I went to school with. We reconnected last year and we quickly became FWB. He’s two years divorced (17 years married). It’s a long distance affair which for me is good. The sex is amazing. I love how he makes me feel when we are together even out of the bed. I’ve been married going on five years and my husband and I haven’t been romantically involved in almost two years. He suffers from erectile dysfunction which has taken a huge toll on him and me. Not to mention a whole lot of other things that have happened. At one time our sex life was okay, not the best, just okay. On top of that my sex drive was very low (due to birth control). I stopped taking and now my sex drive is through the roof. I want to have sex. I enjoy sex. I need/want the intimacy and ultimately with my husband but he’s just unable to give me that. The single man, whom I’ve dealt with in the past, gives me that when we are together. He will tell me he is single and not attached to anyone. Which I get and understand. But here is where I’m getting into my feelings. He is also seeing someone that is a mutual friend. I know about her and she has her suspicions about me. I grew up with and have more history with her. She then tells me that he is her special friend and has been for about a year now. I tell her that we are just friends because that’s what we are “just friends”. She asks him and he says the same thing. She knows I’m married so why in the world would I openly confess to her that I’m having an affair. We all come from the same small town and run in the same circle. She posts things on social media that I know are aimed at me. I feel guilty because I know her and we were friends. Now she says we don’t have beef but we just flow differently. I was with him last weekend and she is with him this weekend. She posts this so I’ll see it. I didn’t post anything on social media about me being with him though I wanted to just to let her know yeah he is seeing other women including me. He called me the day before she arrived at his place. We had a nice chat and I hung up with a smile. Then I see her post the following day and I felt like my heart into my stomach. I like him a lot more than I should. He normally sends me a sweet text every morning on the weekday. It’s the weekend now so I don’t expect to hear from him which is normal. We’ll see what happens come the weekday. He’s introduced me to his mom, sisters, etc. and have all become close. The other girl he’s been seeing who also is a long distance relationship hasn’t been introduced to them. What does that say? I don’t know. My head says walk away. But can we go back to be friends without benefits now? Because I’m lacking so much in my marriage I don’t want it to end. And yes he know’s I’m married.

I am with Hannah on this, you are playing with fire. In situations like this, in the long run, it is the married woman who loses the most. Even if your HB won’t leave you right away when he finds out (and he will find out), your marriage will take a huge hit from which you might never recover. How old are you? If you are your 40s, walk away from your lover ASAP. Sex isn’t everything, life is more important. Have you not heard so many women complain about being lonely, single, not being able to find anyone?

I also don’t understand how you are able to enjoy sex with this guy when you know he rotates you with the other woman. Affairs are caused by emotions, feelings, love. He is not in love with you he id is doing this. It is convenient for him, boost his male ego through the roof, but why would you accept it?

There is a lot more at stake for you than for him or that other woman who is single. In the end, he’d drop you both, she’d move on the same way, he’d move on to someone else, but you risk losing your marriage, your future. Growing old alone aint’ fun darling! You are thinking sex, but I urge you to think about growing old.

If you are younger, late 30s, then this is your last change to divorce and start something new. But whatever oyu start, it won’t be with your lover. The damage of the triangle is going to surface later on, ruining your relationship. You are not going to forget it. There is no recovery from things like that. Especially when cheating is involved.

Yes people fall in love with all different types every second of every day