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Kayla
Me and my boyfriend were together for 4 and half months . We had a great relationship , the communication was good , the passion and love was there , it was pure bliss. There were times when i would act all emotional and dramatic but i would realize how dumb i was and apologized. Then all of a sudden in the relationship , I turned into this needy , clingy , overbearing , girlfriend. I was jealous one night he didnt invite me over to his house when he had his friends there but i apologized again for acting crazy. The next day he came over to stay the night but he told me he wanted to leave in the morning , i asked why , and he said dont worry about it. He never has said that to me so it was a red flag so i asked again , and he said he just wanted to spend time to himself. I asked him why he couldnt of just said that and he said “because it just seems like its a big deal now.”
I asked him if he wanted space and he said yes . So i gave him 2 days and then messaged him i miss you , and he said im sorry. I knew something was different so i asked what he was feeling and he said he feels differently about me now , he doesnt feel the same anymore.
That instantly broke my heart and i reacted upon emotion and said we are done.
A few days later i regretted saying that and apologized and begged for another chance. He ignored me.
So i gave up and asked if we could be friends and he said “I’d be more then happy to be your friend , I just dont want you to think i have any ill will towards you , I just dont feel the same.”
I wrote him a letter and i asked him if we could talk , he sounded annoyed and said yeah. So he stopped by my house and i gave him the note and he put it in his pocket. Then we talked for a bit casually , and then when he said he had to leave i said okay bye. Then i stood there for a min and then he asked if we could hug , so i hugged him. He told me where he was going and what he was doing and that he would talk to me later.
So i messaged him a few hours later and he finally responded back to me and we were talking again.
Today , i sent him a message and he hasnt responded .He is ignoring me..
I know true love when i feel it , and this man was the one for me. I love him so much.
What should i do? and how do i get him to love me again?
Khadija
I’m sorry to say this but, you sound really needy and clingy.
No wonder this guy is heading for the hills,please stop suffocating the poor guy.
He needs time and space to see if he even misses you and at this point he probably doesn’t because you are all up under him.
You can’t make a man love you and by the sounds of your behavior you don’t love yourself.
STOP this behavior now or he’ll ignoring you more and you’ll become the crazy
ex girlfriend who won’t let go.Gemini615
“I know true love when i feel it , and this man was the one for me. I love him so much.
What should i do? and how do i get him to love me again?”
Sorry, but he isn’t your “true love” or the “one” if he doesn’t feel the same about you anymore. From your post you sound very young and like you haven’t quite matured yet; your behavior seems erratic and no man will be willing to put up with that in the future, so I suggest you fix it. You shouldn’t be acting needy and whiny and creating issues out of nothing; that would send anybody running in the opposite direction. That sort of behavior is not attractive.
You can’t make someone do or feel something that they don’t want to. It does not sound like he is in love with you and he does not want to be with you. I know it’s hard but you have to accept that and move on. Stop contacting; no calls, no more letters, no texts/email/social media. Stop all of it.
Sanni
Kayla – I have to agree with the other ladies, you sound like a young lady whom hasn’t found herself yet. And I also agree that this ISN’T “true love” for you, rather it’s infatuation/obsession, nor do I believe that he’s “the one” because if her was, you wouldn’t be in the position that you’re in now because he would be 100% into this with you.
Due to your behavior and SUPER needy, clingy, desperate and jealous behavour, it’s NO WONDER your guy has run for the hills and has had a change of heart. You’re not the person he thought he met, you’re someone who is showing him that you NEED him, that you rely on him for your happiness, and you’re putting the vibe out there that you can’t go on without him. You’re WAY too much in his face, in his pocket, he probably feels like he can’t breathe, or he’s suffocating, and that you’re taking his freedom away. Also, he fears that whenever he should ask for some alone time (and his reasons may have nothing to do with you) you freak out! And if he wants to hang out with his buddies, without you, you’ll freak out! WHO WOULD wanna be with someone like that?!?!?
You can’t make him want to be with you, you can’t make him change his mind, you will not be successful. If you continue, you will push him further and further away, to the point where he won’t even be interested in talking to you anymore.
You seriously need to stop reaching out to him, stop texting, emailing, media snooping, stop it all!! If you keep reaching out, you’re going to appear desperate, needy, and show that you have no self respect. and that will turn him off BIG TIME!
madison
Hey will bryce love me!!!!
Jenny
‘If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.’ ;)
Kleen
My boyfriend and I are currently 1 year and 4 months together. It all started because my boyfriend started being distant.. And when I felt that, I tried to pull him closer which did not work at all. Later he realized that he doesn’t love me anymore, he said he felt this way for two months now because he feels like I’m smothering him, he quotes “you need to give me some room to breathe”. So I’ve decided to move out, he still wants to make it work as well. I hope that space works. Even before we started dating, we had strong feelings for each other, it felt so right. We both agreed that this feels different and that we both thought that we we’re “the one” for eachother. He said he still really cares about me, just not the same as before, so he is still willing to try and fix it. I’m moving out tomorrow and I hope it works out. Do you think that there’s hope for our relationship? Do you think it can be saved?
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