Home › Forums › Dating and Sex Advice › Will he loose interest?
- This topic has 13 replies and was last updated 4 years, 4 months ago by
Amy.
-
AuthorPosts
-
Louise
HI GUYS :)
Im dating a guy for 2 week, we already dated in the past but we were not ready.
I saw him twice since we reconnected. One time was at an open air cinema and other time at his place.
Unfortunatly I had to cancel our third date 4h before because I felt too exausted (I was awake since 4am in the morning) and honestly I had no more energies. I told him so and ask to reschedule another date the next evening.
He told me that he wasn’t sure if he was free the next evening as he has friends over the whole day and that they would go hiking.
But that I could still come and that we could eat and sleep directly.
I told him I was too tired to drive to his place (30min) and told him that he will let me know for tomorow with a smiley face.The next day I had no news from him until 6pm. By that time I already made plan for the evening with my girlfriend since I didn’t get any text from him.
At 6pm he sent me a text telling me that his friends were a bit tired and he was going to have a last drink with them but that I could still come over for diner.
I told him it was too late, that I already made plan for the evening.
He answered very blunty “ok have a good evening”.
Did he lost interest? Did he take it badly?
Louise
Note that yesterday when I texted him I couldn’t make it, I still told him that it would have been a pleasure to be with him.
Louise
Sorry for the english mistakes haha Im portuguese.
Also, last time we saw each other was one week ego. We see each other once a week for the first two dates.
I just hope he doesn’t loose interest… We both have busy schedules and its not easy to find a free time.
Newbie
Who knows? What else can someone say if you made plans? You call it blunt, i call it polite. You ask if that means he lost interest, but i cant even tell at this point if he has nay interest with to start with. I mean if the second date already was a home date and the next suggestion was to come over to eat and sleep and last proposal was also to come over. To me that sounds more like booty call than a guy with serious intentions. Its not that they exclude each other but i mean at this point two dates says nothing at all.
Louise
We are both very busy so yes the last date was at home. I honestly don’t feel any red flags for that. We are both in our 30’s. We have busy lives. We do as we can.
Im not asking if he is interested here in me here…
Im asking if what I did can make him think I’m the one loosing interest.
Newbie
No i think an interested guy understands people can be busy when they ask last minute. So that wouldnt turn him off. I do understand your question but if does really depend on the level of interest to begin with. Which to me doesnt sound high. Its all last minute and come over here. If you are interested in this guy, i wouldnt neglect that or think its you Who didnt sound interested. Especially since its been a week and he has been silent. If you worry it is you, just send him a light text
Louise
No this just happened today!
We never stayed out of touch for one week.I know he is interested! Its just that I wouldn’t want him to believe Im not into him since his answer was blunt.
Newbie
No i read that wrong. The date was a week ago, not the last contact. But still two dates say nothing about the future.
Newbie
I dont think i can help you here. So maybe others are more useful to you
Louise
Thanks Newbie! But yeah Im not asking for the future.
My question was if maybe that guy is thinking Im not into him if I refused two dates (among one which was last minute).
Sensy
You respected your time. If he lost interest, he is just not the one because “the one” would respect that you value your time.
Sensy
Also, why would you want to be with someone who would be not that into you?
Sensy
Do NOT send a text and lean back…you will seem needy and insecure. I would also not accept any more house dates.
Amy
It seems to me that you told the truth. You wanted to see him the next night; he already had plans. So when his other plans ran out, you had already made YOUR plans and that’s perfectly OK. If he gets his feelings hurt or feels that you aren’t interested, then he obviously has issues. You’ve only had two dates, so keep dating other people and if you don’t hear from him make other plans as you did. You never know with guys until a lot more dates than just two. I wish you the best, but relax and enjoy YOUR life, every day as it is a gift that is two short to waste on nervous anxiety. :-)
-
AuthorPosts
