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Mal
I’ve been talking to this guy for a few weeks.
We went on a great first date.
Planned a second one but got disrupted by a storm so it didn’t happen.
After that we went out at night twice and I ended up sleeping over at his place which I agree was a wrong move but I really wasn’t thinking of anything at that moment. I just wanted to enjoy my birthday as that was what happened. I said no to sex and made it clear that I wasn’t ready, there was a little oral sex once when I got drunk and we struggled a bit back and forth but I still insisted on no sex.
He wasn’t exactly happy about it but he said it was fine and whenever I’m ready.
He tried again though but I still insisted.
He texted me after I got back home to check on me.
But I can feel a bit of awkwardness, though it’s just been a day after I spent the night so it might be too soon to tell. But I’m also wondering if he’ll want another date or to hangout again after all this.
Should I text him if he doesn’t ask for another date.
Or just let him goRubi
Let him go if he doesn’t ask you out again because then it will mean he is more interested in getting in your pants than getting to know you and date you.
You should not be pressured into sex just after a few weeks knowing a guy. It should be something natural. However I don’t like the part about oral because it is still sexual, if you’re not ready for intercourse don’t offer anything sexual at all otherwise it won’t build any value in regards to the standard of no sex yet that you’re building.
Mal
That’s correct. i honestly hate myself for the oral. i regret it so much, but I was really drunk and it happened. And he didn’t get me drunk, I did so willingly since it was my birthday. But yeah if he stops contacting then I’ll know he just wanted sex.
M
Hi Mal
Please don’t hate yourself. It’s in the past now. Instead you can use the regret to think about whether it took you closer or further away from what you really want in your heart.
Everything’s a learning experience. You’re so much more than any single act or circumstance Mal. Hopefully this guy will see that (though I must say I’m inclined to agree with Rubi). If not though, there’s someone out there who will recognise that there is so much you have to offer and be loving and respectful and sensitive when it comes to sex when it happens.
Be happy with yourself that you didn’t let anyone push you into what wasn’t right for you. And proud. (It’s not always easy to resist when things are getting hot after all, right!) x
Raven
Did he reciprocate?
Mal
Yes he did
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