Will I ever hear from him again?

Good rule of thumb…for the first 6 months of dating, especially if it is long distance, DO NOT INITIATE ANY TEXTS OR CALLS OR EMAILS OR SMOKE SIGNALS, FACEBOOK LIKES, MESSAGES, TWITTERING..etc.

Because if you do, guys tend to disappear as no one likes a needy/clingy/insecure woman.

Thanks for the input ladies

me initiating a text has never been a problem in the past, its been pretty even between me and him.

I just can’t wrap my head around the fact that Saturday evening he wanted to hang out but then come Sunday and monday he is ignoring my text messages.

Oh and Pollyanne we have not talked about what we are yet. I was hoping to have that conversation last weekend but then I never saw him :/

The texting was even and now it is not. You are alone texting. I say lean back and date others…you have not known this guy long enough to know what he is thinking.

Come on, being ignored is being ignored is being ignored. To NOT respond to a text is 9 times out of 10, INTENTIONAL. Maybe he’s upset that you fell asleep and he’s acting like a little b*tch about it… Who knows???! But I would just wait it out. I’m sure he’ll come around & text but maybe detach a little & take a step back. I don’t see a problem with not contacting me for a couple days, but blatantly ignoring me is a completely different story. BUT I agree that after the first text maybe you shouldn’t have initiated another. But SIX MONTHS Mistral???! Lol. That’s so intense!! I agree that you should leave it to the guys to initiate interest at first, but after the intent is made clear, I’ll text whatever I want whenever I want. Lol. Maybe I’m just impatient but if I want to see you, I’m probably gonna just say so *but I don’t recommend this, I’m just saying. Lol

I mean, after that I never initiated contact. The guy I’m seeing now is somewhat of a player. I generally do not initiate contact. I never make it easy to see me, but I have, embarrassed myself when I was upset, mostly by email, sometimes by text. Once, I thought he stood me up, when it turned out he didn’t, and I called him and left progressively more upset voicemails. He texted me his phone had died. I begged him not to listen to my messages.

The best thing you can do is avoid initiating contact unless he has truly committed to you.

Lauren Conrad said it best, “As soon as you stop thinking about them, they’ll send you a text message or they’ll call you because they know you just stopped thinking about them. It’s like a radar.”

I need some opinions. Initially I was thinking if i didn’t hear from this guy i was just going to leave it alone and try and move on with my life. However, now that its coming up on about a week that I have not heard from him I feel like I want some answers.

Im really just hurt and baffled. I truly feel that he made a decision overnight that he never wanted to talk to me again and I don’t understand. How do we go from Him trying to hang out Saturday night to Sunday he no longer is speaking to me?

Not just that but our “relationship” prior to this was something that i considered a little too good to be true ( i’m pretty pessimistic when it comes to men) so I don’t know what to do. Im having a harder time moving on than I anticipated and more than that I’m having a hard to understanding how someone can just decide to disappear from your life without saying anything to you.

Thoughts, suggestions?

Alia that is very true! Rest assured he will come back, but don’t wait around for him! Best thing to do is keep busy and do fun things that take your mind off of him.

You’re very welcome Alix! And believe me, I know exactly how you feel. It really sucks to be ghosted, and it leaves you with so many questions and no answers. But it sure says a lot about the guy’s character. You deserve someone who doesn’t just disappear on you for xyz reason with no explanation. If I were you, I would just take his silence as closure and move on.

I agree, I hate when I’m accused of being needy or “desperate” as one guy put it, well maybe I was desperate to have been upset by that particular loser when he told me his match membership ended the next day, after we had sex he told me this. Then next day he’s revised his profile, new pics. So, try to contact him, and he blows me off. Yeah, I acted insecure AFTER, he lied and blew me off. And the word “needy” annoys me. Everybody is needy. Guys get needy when they think you might be blowing the off. I mean they make big fools out of themselves too,
Calling someone needy is just silly and hypocritical.

Hi there,
I met this guy at work and he begged me for my number..but at the start I was reluctant as I’d started a new job and new country ect so he made me promise to call him..
A day or so later he came back to me asking why had I not called him and this was at my work?!
About 6-7 weeks later I texted him asking how he was..then he asked me out ..he told me he was separated and has 2 small children..I asked him 3 times was he separated,that he was allowed to date ect as I wanted no drama..and no upset to be caused.
Everything was going really well in the start he would call asking me out told me how much he really liked me,that he wanted to introduce me to his friends ,even asked me did I love him,he insisted in meeting my best friend I lived with offered to help me move..showing interest texted called insisted in helping us to move even..
Then once i had moved I said that it would be nice if we could go on a day date somewhere , and he agreed on the date all was well..I never pressurised him at all this is 4 sure.
Then he didn’t reply to my texts I sent 2 asking if he was okay n’d called once..then I stopped as he didn’t reply…
Retaining my dignity I have since not texted or called.. No response but wanted to know if all was well.. Maybe a small explanation .But shocked as he was so forward by the things he had said to me before!he even was saying things like could you imagine what our kids would look like ..even at the time I was like wow ..that’s intense I even said darling ..we’ve only just started dating??but all the same thought it endearing.
Then poof he just dissapeared??after 2 months this man just dissapeared?!im confused as I never brought up marraige,babies, or anything like this!
Soo confused by his behaviour as I was causious but always kind..
I think of him from time to time and wander if I will ever hear from him again?
I thought about the things that I had said to him and if I was a nag or chased him or somehow scared him off..I thought and rethought again..to this day I am baffled ..
Time will tell as I am busy in my life but reading some of these other stories I realise I am not alone..
Maybe he got in to fast and deep and realised ..then ran?frightened scared by his own actions
Who knows?

Yep I agree with what you are saying here there’s a lot of the above going on.its strange how all of us end up thinking like (it must have been something I did..to make him leave)..it’s not normal!
Fair enough if you have put your self out there saying that you want no strings attached ect.
But what are you supposed to do ?not believe or trust anything a man tells you?and to go around suspicious all the time?!
Also when he repeadatly is telling u he isn’t looking for a fling and wants a relationship,and wants you when you’ve asked him are you sure??and you’ve asked all the important questions what do you do?you trust and pray he is being honist right.
And we are busy working women…I do not have time to date several men at once I just want to focus at one at a time?
I work 6 days a week 12 hrs per day…
And frankly none of the behaviour above is normal …does anyone else agree?