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Sandra
I went on a blind date with someone, we got along and it went well. We went through more dates after and on the third he told me that he doesn’t live here and would need to return abroad. He also told me he can’t do long distance. I went along with it and we went on more dates because I enjoyed his company. I am going abroad in a few months where he lives for vacation and he told me lets plan something while I’m there but again he said no to long distance. Due to Christmas and New Years, I haven’t seen him for more than 2 weeks and the feeling for me faded even if we were in constant communication. Another reason why we haven’t seen each other is because members in his family tested positive for covid and he informed me that he has a few symptoms. He’s going to leave on January 18 which is a week from now and he told me that he still wants to see me a few more times before he leaves. Should I still see him or just leave it as it was?
RavenWhy would you put yourself on hold for a guy who lives in another country?
Let him do the heavy lifting…
Liz LemonIt sounds to me like he enjoys your company & wants to kill time before he leaves. It’s really up to you, but I wouldn’t waste my time if I were you. Your feelings for him have faded. He’s leaving the country in a week and is adamant that he doesn’t want to do long distance. So I don’t see a point to continuing the situation. I think it would be better to focus your efforts on seeing other guys who are local and available.
MaddieOnly if I really wanted physical intimacy and wasn’t otherwise getting more attached. There’s not really much other reason to see him. And with covid going around the family, it’s not a good time for physical intimacy either. I’d skip it if you’ve lost interest… maybe a coffee if you want to say goodbye in person.
GaiaI’m not sure why you’ve even bothered with this guy this long. He isn’t going to change his mind about LDR. Why even bother meeting up? Why would you risk getting sick from being around a dude who has zero investment in anything about you, has made his intentions clear, and who is leaving the country? What’s the point?
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