Wrong to send him a bikini pic?

I think it’s ok, you are a woman, gotta use your looks to get the guy interested.

Just stop with the texting, get him to move to a phone conversation, and get a date to meet within a week or so.

It’s not the pic, it’s the texting ad nauseum with a stranger. Be an adult, talk, meet.

I don’t think its a big deal and he didn’t turn into a creep.

While he is on vacation keep the texting to a minimum.

Best wishes on the date when he returns.

I don’t ever send pictures to anyone I’ve met on a dating site until I’ve met them and feel comfortable with them after a few dates. You still have no idea who this is and that they are who they say they are so you have no idea where those pics could end up. Keep contact before meeting to a minimum or it sets up false hopes.

As someone else said this is a different generation. And there are girls who add guys they don’t even know to their IG. So I really don’t see a difference between you sending a picture a couple thousand people have seen or adding him to your IG where he would have seen the same pictures. I certainly wouldn’t share any pictures with him you wouldn’t want anyone else to see though!!

Men are visual and if you’re interested in him then what’s the harm in sending him some pictures you feel you look good in. It doesn’t sound like he turned the conversation sexual or said anything to make you feel uncomfortable. I have a strict rule that if any guy starts talking to me about sex or trying to sext when we haven’t even had a first date yet then he won’t get a date!!

Personally, I wouldn’t. I’m one of the the most liberal women you’ll find, but when it comes to a man I like, I go ultra conservative! It’s just my style though (and I have a lot of male friends so I hear a lot of their thoughta!)

If you wanted to impress someone in a job interview, you wear clothes that give a good impression. It’s not the same as posting something on IG is it? Same with dating. If you want him to take you seriously, show him you looking cute, sexy and having fun. I’m sure that’s what you did! But in a bikini when you’ve never met? It very much depends on how he interprets that. He will interpret it as a come-on, I want you, but whether that diminishes your value to him depends on his attitude.

I’m sure you haven’t done any harm. He’s probably had women send lingerie or naked pics, so you in a bikini is nothing!

Men are very, very visual. He will look at any photos you send over and over again if he likes you or if he’s bored/horny. If he likes your look in a bikini, he may not just be looking at the photos, if you know what I mean! And yes he may act like a gentleman but that doesn’t mean he’s thinking like one or acting like one in private!

No harm done at all. Just no more provocative pics and let him lead.

If you guys end up as a couple, one day, down the road, ask him what he did with those pics. I GUARANTEE HANNAH IS RIGHT!!! HAHAHA. I didn’t send those kinds of pics to my BF until we were actually dating properly, but he confessed about 6 months in that he used to pleasure myself to a photo of my face “because of a certain look in my eyes” before we even met! We had a relatively long lead up to meeting because it was long distance, but I was still really surprised that he’d find enough even in what I thought was an innocent pic to perve out on. Of course, we are in love, so it seems cute now…. but um.. yeah, just FYI, this guy and probably guys who are following you on IG are definitely thinking dirty thoughts. I think it’s a good sign that he’s keeping those thoughts to himself for now.

No there is a generational issue but men are men. He WILL fantasize over those photos if he likes you. Doesnt matter if he’s 12 or 80. Why do you think men ask for photos all the time?

He’s unlikely to respect you any less, but he will still have “naughty thoughts”. Even if it’s you in a nice dress, he’ll look at it loads and imagine you without it on.

I like to leave the clothes on so they have to earn taking them off in person. But that is just me! With a potential FWB, I don’t care because he doesn’t need to take me seriously.

Lol.. it’s generational and I’m old? I’m married. And you are here asking for advice. Because you don’t have a man. Did I get that right? Send al the pics you want. But you won’t stand out because the girls with lowest confidence feel the most need to impress..

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Kira, ignore her. troll

Someone needs a Midol!