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Anon
I have been with my man for a year now and things are good. We have up and down we are continuing to work on. He has a child who is 2 years old. The drama with his baby mama has been off and on. She sometimes uses his child as a pawn and be tripping sometimes. It puts him in a bad mood when they get into it.
Fast forward to today. He decided to pop up at my house and I was surprised to see him. I woke up threw water on my face and went to see him outside enjoying the breeze. He gets a FaceTime call from his baby mom and she is telling him about a conversation he has with her sister. She tells him she wants another baby by him because she doesn’t want another baby daddy and she knew he doesn’t want another baby mama. I am hearing this conversation and I am feeling awkward as heck. I can tell he was caught off guard and that he wishes he has his Bluetooth in at that time. He didn’t even say no all he said was “what!” Laughed “man bye I’m go get off this phone bye” she kept talking and he just kept saying “I’m go get off this phone” smh like he always tell me how she trips and how they don’t like each other and how they not on good terms blah blah blah. But the call states otherwise. He don’t even put his foot down at all. I’m sitting there weirdly listening to this. After that the vibe between us was soooo off and he left shortly after. He didn’t even have a backbone to say no. Now I see that he lied to me saying she knew he was in a relationship. That girl knows nothing about me. Now I don’t even know what to think anymore. I use to not worry about their talks or when he goes to see his kid or she comes to his house to drop him off. I feel so weird now. Please help on what I should do. This showed me he has no backbone to her. She calls the shots and he say there and didn’t even say “no” all he said was “‘I’m about to get off the phone”AngieBabyYou caught him in a major lie. There’s no acceptable explanation and no way out of this for him. She doesn’t know about you and thinks they’re still involved. She wouldn’t have said those things if she knew about you or they weren’t together.
What do YOU think you should do????
What happens if you continue with him knowing what you know now???????
I know what I’d do. But it only matters what you decide to do.
Be glad you heard this conversation before you got further in with him.
AnonYou are right. I can’t believe I heard this conversation. I hear stories about her all the time from him. Even if they weren’t together how in the world is she so comfortable with asking that. If you say y’all don’t like each other so much why on earth would she be cools with asking that. Y’all argue and go back and forth a lot and almost went into court for custody. This girl is weird to me. Same time my man had me there in his face and didn’t even put her in her place
AngieBabyThat’s the biggest problem – HE didn’t handle it. You do NOT want a man with no backbone. He will be involved with her the rest of his life as they have a child together. If he isn’t putting up boundaries now, if he’s letting her think he’s still interested in her, even if it’s just to keep the peace to ensure he sees his child, you don’t want anything to do with this situation. She’ll be enraged when she finds out he’s seeing someone else and he will pay dearly and the drama will be never ending. You’re going to be collateral damage. He’s playing her and he’s playing you. I hope you won’t let him get away with it, you deserve better than this.
AngieBabyI had a BF once who told me all about how he couldn’t stand his ex, who cheated on him. And then I accidentally found an extended email chain between them that was only something people who are good friends write. He told me he was just being polite. And I said, what’s up with this, you say you don’t like her and you don’t want contact with her, but here in black and white I see you telling her “call me anytime you need help with that” and reminiscing about all the fun you had together way back when, while you trash talk her to me. Nope. I walked. Don’t be fooled by guys who talk out of both sides of their mouth.
AnonWow smh! They say one thing but the truth reveals another. I was waiting for him to stand up for himself and it never happened. He didn’t even acknowledge to her that I was there. If the shoe was on the other foot and I had a child with another man and he called and my man was there with me. I would have stopped him in his tracks with that crazy talk and let him know I am with my man. My boyfriend laughed it off. I helped him through so much dealing with her with saving money in case they went to court and finding lawyers and everything. This was a complete slap in the face and I feel stupid.
EwaAngie is right in saying that sometimes men are interested just to keep the ex cool otherwise they might risk not even seeing the kids. It happened to someone I know and eventually this woman ended up having mental health issues because when he was done ‘needing’ her she went crazy and started using his daughter against him.
Saying that he is playing you both it seems so it is best if you leave him -
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